Self actualisation do we ever reach it?

I'm starting the blog with a question, and to me the answer is no, we never fully reach self actualisation, because we are looking for the next fix, the next opportunity.  lets face humans are ambitious beings, they are the ones who made that extra step in the evolution chain. 

What is everyones idea of self actualisation?  well to some it is being comfotable, living in a new house, with a family, driving that ideal car and having the ideal job.  but not many people actually get there, but they dream of it, and media use those dreams and aspirations to sell there wares to the masses,  "you too could look good if you buy our product",

Lets look at me, Iam 34, worked hard for more years than I care to remember, I enjoy life, well when not walked over by people, but that is another story.  I dont have the best car in the world, At present I still live with my mother, but I have followed my dream, done my ideal job and have many hours of fun in the process. 
Iam still single, but the write one hasnt come along yet and doubt if she will because I am one picky bastard, but I refuse to let that get me down, I dont pay to go on dating sites and I dont spend the night going from pub to club looking for someone. I'm not interested and to be honest prefer to sit on my shelf at times observing everyone else.  I am digressing.

I suppose if we look at the Maslow the basic needs are shelter, food and companionship, now I have a roof over my head, and I do eat, I have skipped the third, although I was there once.  I do have lots of good friends though.  Ok so just the Esteem to achieve and self actualisation to get to.

Now Esteem or confidence, well I have it in some ways such as driving, and having a laugh with my mates, but when comes to finding the ideal life partner then it goes out the window. 

We all want to belong, be part of that clique and we do get there, its all about following the crowd, going with the flow.  Unfortunately something I wont do, I refuse to follow the crowd, simply because just because everyone else watches X factor then why should I?.  This probably explains why I get frustrated with things. 

I suppose to get where we want in life we have to think for ourselves, open up our minds to new thinking and get out the comfort zones and live a little.  Maybe have a read of Maslow yourselves.  We all have times of caos but we just have to get through them. 

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